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Take this with as many grains of salt as you like. Thankfully I'm in a happy relationship with a great girl now, but I've seen some shit. Learn from my experience so that you don't have to put up with the BS I did. :)

I've (36M) had enough experience now - both with girls that've been super into me and not, and with girls I'm really excited about and not - to be all but 100% certain about one thing: Guys/girls will make time for people they're genuinely into 99.99% of the time.

I've had girls go from being "sooo tired/busy" to "Are you free tonight? I miss you. I wanna see you." I've also had girls who cancel a date to go shopping with their best friend. I've also had one girl straight up cancel a date she had lined up with another guy to see me again. That one had a birthday the next day so we planned to meet again the day after. But she couldn't wait. She invited me to join her birthday even though I'd only seen her twice and invited me to stay the night at her place after.

This isn't to say people are obligated to make time for you just because y'all matched on an app or went out once or twice. Sometimes life/work does get crazy or there's a family health emergency or some other crisis. But it usually won't be too long before you hear back from them and you hear what's up. And usually they'll at least let you know when they can meet up again - i.e. concrete plans. When people are genuinely interested, they make the effort to find the time to see you. Give a bit of grace (maybe a week or so), but beyond that 10 to 1 odds they're just not that into you and/or breadcrumbing you. Stop waisting your time.

Besides, even if you could get a flaky person to finally go out with you again, do you really think it'd be worth it? Or a good experience? Or would you rather date someone who is just as excited about you as you are about them?